NM > AZ

12/27/25

we just got to Albuquerque, New Mexico. looked it up and realized that we’re 5000 something feet above sea level, which is a big difference from what we’re used to in New Jersey. I was bringing the bags in from the car and felt out of breath, and thought I was just maybe getting out of shape, when R mentioned our elevation, which made me feel better a little bit. not feeling nauseated – just weird like out of body, lightheaded, and out of breath sometimes. But it’s a beautiful place, with mountains all around.

12/28/25

saw this thing on Facebook recently, re couples, the 222 and 333 rule. The 333 is like a rule of thumb- if you haven’t gone on a date in three months and something else, it means you’re in the roommate phase. And the supposed remedy for that is 2-2-2: every two weeks, go out on a date, and every two months, take a weekend off together, and every two years, a weeklong vacation together. I was trying to think how this time off together would be possible because right now it’s just us two and Hunter, with no one to leave him to. It’s pretty hard/impossible to get time off alone unless he’s basically sleeping. But I also wonder how true these rules are, and feel like we could probably just move through this roommate phase on our own eventually. And I don’t even really feel like roommates towards him – I still feel that I love him, and that he loves me. even tho we are both like 24/7 childcare givers. I also feel like if we can survive this tough childcare time together, we’d have built a strong foundation between us with which to continue forward together on.

have been driving on route 66 all day today – going twds AZ- it might be the most beautiful landscape I’ve ever seen.