1/22/20
thought I had today/maybe started forming yesterday: I wonder if, if you have to like, open your marriage and turn to other people in sexual and romantic ways, that all that means is that you are not creative enough, inventive enough, to devise ways to keep both yourself and your spouse well-entertained. Like, YOU are the one that thinks up scenarios to try, actual activities (sexual or not-blatantly sexual) to try, rules to follow, pacts to make, habits to form, ways you greet each other, inside jokes, mischievous pranks, beautiful and sexy clothing and makeup, ways to tempt and tease and provoke each others’ fantasies, etc. Like, all this shit is up to YOU. Your effort. So like, if you can’t make up this kind of shit, and feel like you have to at once turn to other ppl before TRYING all possible scenarios between yourselves first, then…isn’t the blame on you, for lack of creativity? I mean you can create anything, anything you can dream up. And you have a willing partner. This is…the blank slate you were praying for. This is the opportunity you wanted. Take it. Don’t lay back now. If you ever should not lay back in complacency, it’s now. Now—when most people DO think they can switch off and lay back, after getting married—now is the time you should take all your ideas and run! Put them in action. Have fun 🙂
Now you have the security to be wild. Now you have the foundation to be unstable. Now you have the grounds for chaos. – A feeling I had about marriage that I wasn’t able to put into words until today.
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